Me time

How are you all doing?

Struggling to get some time to breathe? Or perhaps have a glass of wine (or in my case coffee) in peace?

Well, I am here to say you are not alone.

You are not alone with feeling guilty that you want some time to yourself.

Everyone deserves to have some time to themselves. Especially in this current climate.

How are we able to maintain a healthy lifestyle for our children and for each other? When we don’t take the time to rest and recharge our batteries before the kids strike demanding attention.

So I am hoping that this can persuade and show you to have some time to yourself.

I am terrible, absolutely terrible to take time out for myself. Just ask my other half! I focus a lot of my day doing activities and mainly playing with James and cleaning the house. Even though James does try to help me (bless him).

However, it does take a toll on me. I become more irritable and frustrated. I hate to say this but I shout at James when he doesn’t eat or spits out his food or simply ignoring me! I even get frustrated at myself when I do something stupid. In particular when I can’t find something important (when it was in front of me). I also have a cry as I feel bad and my emotions are all over the place whilst I dig into an Easter egg.

The current climate doesn’t help with this. I miss going out to soft plays. I miss showing James new places. However, most of all I miss seeing family and friends. I hate the fact that James doesn’t see them and doesn’t comprehend what is happening.

So last week I made the decision to focus on myself. That is why I didn’t post anything in the past week. I wanted to take some time to rest and have more quality time with James and not become the worse version of me. I wanted to be mum 2.0!

You know what?

I had a great time with James. When he went for a nap. I would sit back and watch a new guilty pleasure Disney’s Fairytale Weddings. It’s so cheesy but so good at the same time. It also makes me want to renew my wedding vows in 9 years! No house work just time to myself. Thinking how amazing would a Disney wedding be. I know I am getting off subject here!

James could have a mini nap or a long nap. So I make most of this time to recharge my batteries. Even though I don’t have a coffee I feel refreshed ready for him and anything he throws my way (most likely to be balls)!

Don’t get me time wrong I do love spending time with my bear cub. But I don’t like my being annoyed at him. I don’t like getting annoyed at him. So it only makes sense that I have a rest and take time for myself.

I am trying to focus on myself more. Simply by having a bath or just reading a book. Just by having 15 minutes to myself makes me feel 10 times better. I won’t feel bad as I know I will be more fun for James to play with.

I know there might be people who don’t like baths. So here are some other ideas. For what you can do whilst your little one is having a nap:

• Listen to a podcast (currently listening to The Office Ladies)
• look through photos and start a photo album or scrapbook
• Watch a programme you have wanted to watch for a long time
• have a coffee/tea with cake
• Have a nap!

Everyone needs time to themselves.

Stay strong and stay safe

💖