Potty madness!

The last month has been pretty hectic and chaotic in the house!

I have been trying and really mean trying to potty train James. It’s a nightmare!

Sometimes he will happily run to the toilet when I ask him if he needs. Other times, sadly, I will need to encourage him and offer him treats. This can either result in a tantrum or a “yay”!

When I mean a tantrum, I really mean a tantrum! He will throw himself onto the floor and make his body stiff, making it hard to lift him up. He would also cry and scream very loudly. He can be really stubborn (don’t know where he gets it from).

What I am struggling with the most, is how he can go from a happy kid going to the toilet and occasionally having poo in there. To refusing to go to the toilet! There’s no consistency with him!

I don’t know why he sometimes refuses to go. I don’t know why he doesn’t say when he needs the toilet. He is more than able to!

Another thing I am struggling with is the mentality of it all!

I think most of the time that I am failing him. That he can’t go to the toilet because I did/didn’t do something right. I am constantly putting the blame onto myself and it hurts. This already doesn’t help me as I can suffer from my “grey I days” where can only see the darkness in life. I would just sit in the hallway and cry. Sometimes for a reason or for the fact that I put a huge amount of pressure onto myself.

I also feel the pressure from families and social media. Where I can see other kids younger than James managing to go to the potty with no issues.

What am I doing wrong?

Is it me?

Or is it James?

Or could it be something else?

I wish I had a clue!

I wish James would understand that I am trying to help him. Trying to teach him a huge part of growing up!

It’s so hard isn’t it!

Life as a mum isn’t always rosey posey. It can genuinely suck and you strive and strive to do the best for your kids. Then it hits you right in the back!

I am not posting this for sympathy. I am posting to help other mums who might be struggling with potty training too.

So, if you have any advice or tips please leave them in the comments below!

Stay safe

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