Am I a normal(ish) mum

Ok hands up if you wake up with your little one crying and you wish you could roll over and go back to sleep.

Hands up if you put on something for your little one until you feel more awake.

Hands up if you can’t function until after a cup of coffee.

If your hand is risen then you are a lot like me! But is this normal?

Do we have to be portrayed in a social convention and be like Mary Poppins? Or be like those happy mums seen in adverts? Who might not necessarily be mums but actresses who have scraped the barrel for jobs. Do we have to put pressure on ourselves and be the practically perfect mum even though we struggle to get up?

I am getting fed up of this. I don’t feel like those mums portrayed and come up with amazing ideas for my son. I don’t feel like I am truly myself until after my mug of coffee.

But I ask you, the public and fellow mums. Do you feel like this?

Is this normal?

What is normal?

Am I a normal(ish) mum?

Perhaps I am not normal.

Do I care? Maybe more than I should.

When I watch tv the mums look so well dressed and appear to have it altogether. Whereas, I dress in the comfy tops and jeans that are too big for me. Cause I am not a big shopper and hate shopping for trousers. My hair just goes all over the place and I have no make up on ( I wear make up rarely anyway). I don’t wear crisp linen white shirts and I don’t have a glistening white smile. Whereas my teeth are not glistening and I wouldn’t dare wear a white linen shirt (that’s just asking for trouble with stains).

Even though I don’t dress like a mum. I do care. I do care about my appearance but sometimes I don’t feel like getting myself ready and I am fine sitting on my sofa in my pjs. I don’t want to put make up on and sort my hair, when I feel no one will notice. I try to work on my appearance but just now I am like, why bother? Why should I change the way I dress? Why should I put on make up? Do I even need to put on make up?

Am I a normal(ish) mum now?

There are mums who focus on exercise and healthy eating. I personally don’t know how they have time! As I spend most of my days playing with James where I am being used as a climbing frame.

I would love to cook healthy meals more often for my family to enjoy. I would love to swap recipes with other mums. I would love to make a brand new recipe! I suppose I still have time to do that in the future but I still would like to do something in the present.

You know what else I would love to do? Yoga. Isn’t that such a mum thing to do? I would stay in my living room (i wouldn’t dare go to a class) and put on the tv learning some poses. That sounds amazing eh? However, doing this with a 17 month old running around affecting your balance is really hard. I have attempted to try but James sees me standing up and wants lifted. If he doesn’t get lifted he cries. If I try to do the dog or cobra pose he would simply climb onto me.

So instead I have tumble time and focus mostly on him then myself.

Does this make me a normal(ish) mum?

Many mums have nice clean and tidy homes. With a grey wall or two! I have no grey walls at my place. I am tempted to paint a wall a grey in the future, but I am getting off subject here!

Anyway getting back to the subject! I do try to make time to clean my home but again James gets in the way. He does try to help and copies me dusting and cleaning the floor. I should point out that it is his choice! How do other mums do this? How do other mums keep their home so clean like it’s a show home?

If you know please let me know.

James is at the point where he has toys everywhere and I mean everywhere! When I am hoovering I find toys in the most surprising of places! We do have toy boxes but he likes to remove toys from them. I am past the point of putting them back. I mean what’s the point? As he will simply take them out again!

Am I a normal(ish) mum?

If any of these relates to you please let me know.

I am actually questioning myself here!

Hope you are all safe and well

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